What is a normal life?
What were you expecting for your life?
Why did you have these expectations?
Were you told that this is what you should strive for?
Is this what you wanted?
What DO you want?
Do you even know what you want?
Deciding the kind of life we want is not a strait forward thing. In fact, it’s a moving target as life goes on. Anyone who says otherwise is just satisfying an expectation that was placed upon them.
We humans in our core, are very complex. Stagnancy is not our true nature. For this reason, when deciding what we wish to do in/with our life it is best we have NO BASIS FOR COMPARISON. Or at least, no SINGLE basis for comparison. Everybody’s desires are vastly different. Our lives should be a Frankenstein of bits and pieces of elements we are exposed to and choose during the course of our life.
So if we ever find ourselves asking the question (to ourselves), “When do I get to lead a normal life?” or “What do I have to do to live a normal life?”, Let me give this small piece of advice: Don’t ask those questions. These are loaded questions.
There IS no “normal” life. There’s just life.
It’s a question that is based in ridiculous societal expectations that certainly do not lead to happiness.
The only questions we should be asking ourselves is: “What am I passionate about?” and “What is my plan for pursuing that passion?”, “What are my goals?”………. That’s it.
The motivation to move forward needs to be intrinsic, very personal.