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January 27, 2016May 22, 2017

Listen to your children, they bring perspective to your life.‏

One of the many wonderful things about children is that they keep things simple, and focus only on life’s essentials. Their minds are not riddled with all the fluff and ridiculous concerns and priorities that we adult humans have built up over the course of time; most of these are complete fabrications anyway.

I recall once I had a small argument with my wife about how she loads the dishwasher. “The glasses always go on the top rack on the sides. this allows for better use of space and eliminates the possibility of a broken glass. Why do I have to keep reminding you of this?!” I said to her (we have broken a couple of glasses on the bottom rack before). “You are the one who has the job of washing the dishes anyway, be grateful I even put a few in!” We went back and forth for about a minute when my three year old daughter walked up to me and said “No fighting daddy!” “But mommy is doing it wrong” I said to her calmly. “So what?” my daughter said. She rendered me silent. Dead silent. Why? Because she was right, the quarrel was ridiculous. The situation is not worth the emotional price my wife and I were paying. It’s a frigging set of dishes, ‘Take them out of the bottom rack and put them on the top one if you don’t like it Anthony. It takes 10 seconds’ (my internal monologue).

What was I so fuming about: That my wife forgot to load that the top rack the way I like it, and that somehow I lose “face” by letting her ignore my method? Really? What is “face” anyway? It’s the excessive respect for authority desired to feed ego. So basically it’s bullshit. An illusion created by the insecure to give them some sense of control.

Here is three more fictitious concepts that us humans have created that have no bearing in reality, but somehow many of us based our lives around: pride, honor, and propriety. There are more, but I can’t think f them now. These are concepts that man has created and built entire institutions around that are complete fabrications. furthermore, they all come from the same place …… ego. They hold value only because we all believe they do. So yes, they do have bearing in the realities we have created, but not in real reality, not in natures reality, not in Gods reality. Therefore these concepts should never jeopardize any of the important concepts in God’s reality: love, compassion, kindness, caring, peace, discovery, growth, passion.

“So what?” she said. So what, indeed. Children have not yet learned of these fictitious concepts, and even if they have, they have not yet applied value to them. Truthfully, I don’t believe they ever need to learn of them. After all, these concepts have literally done nothing for us as a species except cause suffering and death.

Listen to your children. Try to be like them. Unlearn all the BS this world has taught you. And most of all, try your best to preserve their innocence. Love and growth/passion are the only things that matter. They’re the only things that ever mattered. Our children know that. Why is it that we have lost that?

January 23, 2016May 22, 2017

With relationships, there is not a “right” answer or a “wrong” answer. There is only “What can I live with?”

Relationships are complex, and they require maintenance. This goes for ALL kinds of relationships; lovers, friends, brothers, sisters, parents, children, co-workers, even neighbors. But the equation for deciding whether or not to hold on to a relationship is still no different than that of holding on to our possessions and activities: Does this add any value to my life? Do the pros outweigh the cons?

The trouble is, we are often morally conflicted when it comes to our relationships. “Sure he is lazy, negative, and makes me feel bad about myself. But it would be wrong to just let him go.” “All she does is spend my money, and party all the time. But she really hasn’t done anything malicious.” I have heard many excuses like these.

Here is the truth. People that add no value to our lives are adding no value to their own life, and are likely using us as a crutch. By cutting them off we do both parties a favor. First, we rid our-self of dead weight and bring value back to our lives (obviously). Second, we force them to have to stand on their own whether it is financially, emotionally, spiritually, or whatever. In doing this we force them to make them-self a better person. In essence, by letting them go you are doing more for them than you would be holding on to this destructive relationship.

January 17, 2016August 6, 2016

Beauty obsession. Lose the cosmetics and let your natural beauty shine through.

I recently came across a FB post of a friend of mine with a picture of her sitting in her car with no makeup on. I was immediately shocked for two main reasons. First, she is never without makeup; I barely recognized her in the picture. Second, she was absolutely beautiful without the makeup in the pic. Don’t get me wrong, I always thought she was beautiful before. But usually when I always see a woman with makeup on I assume it is because she is either “hard favored” or hiding something less than attractive about their face. After all, why would one constantly makeup their face when they leave the house unless they were hiding something? I left the comment: “OMG, I have never seen you without makeup. you are so beautiful.” to which she replied: “OMG, I can’t believe this picture is up.” Obviously this post was not her doing. Her feelings on the matter broke my heart a little.

But unfortunately this is common. I see it in small doses all the time. People (women particularly) are obsessed with this idea of beauty coming in the form of flashy vibrant colors they paint their faces with. It doesn’t stop there either. They wear uncomfortable high heels to appear taller, push up bras to increase their bosom, toxic hair product to create the illusion of healthy voluminous hair. It’s a lot of work and pain.

Over the course of time we have built this idea of what “beautiful” is supposed to look like, and made that the standard by which all women compare themselves.

This is yet another example of how people choose fashion over function. High heel shoes are impractical. Face makeup causes premature aging, allergies, poisoning. That’s right, the toxins in makeup have been known to cause severe headaches at the very least.

Let’s bring back natural beauty. Lose the eyeliner, mascara, lipstick, foundation, blush, heels, and restricting bras. Think of all the time wasted making yourself up in the morning. All the pain. All so you can go out in public looking like a socially accepted clown. It’s ridiculous. Ladies, you are beautiful just the way you are.