On this June “Pride” month I’d like to say that I support love in whatever form it comes.
What I do not support is labeling that love. It’s completely unnecessary. Let’s just love according to our natural design. As long as our romantic love remains intra-species, there is no harm.
We need to let go of our labeling systems, our grouping systems, our unnecessary social constructs. They serve no purpose other than a false sense of security, identity. Do people REALLY need to feel like their part of a group to give them some sense of validation? We should be able to stand just fine on our own two feet as individuals. Only THAT is true security in ones self.
Example:
I am Anthony. Not a man, woman, or non-binary. Not a strait, gay, or Bi. And frankly, I don’t care which one of these categories you throw me into (or any others unmentioned). I’ll sleep just fine. If you need something to call me ….. call me Anthony (or Foppy), …….. after all, that IS my name.
There, that was easy. Now you try.
A naming convention is only useful and functional when it is simple and efficient, and the new naming convention for sexuality and gender is neither of these things. But …… since the old naming convention (the binary one) no longer apples (maybe never did), “what do we do now?”. Easy, ….. abolish naming conventions for sexuality and gender. They serve no purpose other than some false sense of validation.
For those of you who are having a hard time understanding, it goes like this:
Once a child is born, how about we let them explore what their likes and dislikes are freely. When the time comes, also let them explore their sexuality. Do NOT attach labels to the choices they make and their behavior. Doing so pigeonholes them into a category. Once that is imbedded in their mind, there is a subtle pressure to remain in that category. Labels build mental walls. This in turn hinders them from potentially pursuing other paths as interests and desires naturally change over time.
I look at the new acronym LBGTQIA+ and it makes me laugh. This is because built in the acronym is the very admission that the labeling system is long and complicated, and that the very people within that community are unable to keep up. How can any of us be expected to take this naming convention seriously with a “+” at the end of it. If I didn’t know the community better, I’d be inclined to believe that the “+” was added in there as a gag ….. you know, to make light of it.
Abandon the construct! It’s just mental clutter.
LBGTQIA+ has got to go. It would be far more effective to come up with a name that is not simply an incomplete list of all the subgroups within the larger group, but one that defines the group as a whole and maybe what their goal is. Something like “The Coalition of Alternative Sexual Orientations and Lifestyles”; Just off the top of my head.