Slow down, and seize the moment.

Open-ArmsSo many of us suffer the consequences of a consumer lifestyle. Even for those of us that are not living in excess (those of us who are already minimalists), so many of us still suffer a major consequence of this consumerist society in that we have the drive to be constantly “on the move.” Always in a hurry. We try so hard to fit as much as we can into a single day. We make lots and lots of plans, booking one task/event after another, after another. Often packing our schedules so tightly that we cannot enjoy any of these activities. We are so deep in thought about “what’s next on the agenda” that we are not living in the moment RIGHT NOW. Our minds are so focused on making sure that we complete all our tasks by the end of the day/week/month/whatever  that our senses are closed off to letting us experience life.

Here is a sample day:

  • While we are getting ready for the day we are thinking “I gotta hurry and make it to the gym.”
  • While we are exercising at the gym we are thinking: “I hope I can make my massage appointment.”
  • While we are getting a massage we are putting together our grocery list in our minds: “OOO, I can’t forget to get the avocados.”
  • While we are grocery shopping we are contemplating how much food to prepare when we get home.
  • While we are preparing and then eating our dinner back at home we are going over our agenda for the next day.

And the results:

  • While we were getting ready for the day we missed the beautiful sunrise out of our window.
  • Our minds were so removed from our workout that we didn’t quite give it our all.
  • We missed out on the wonderful pleasure of a good massage because once again we were removed from the moment.
  • We were so focused on what we were going to make for dinner that we forgot the avocados anyway. We also didn’t notice that our favorite beer is finally back on the market.
  • We were unable to enjoy the wonderful tacos we made because while we were eating we were stressing about tomorrows chores. Oh, and we missed the sunset.

(Does any of this sound familiar?)

SLOW DOWN people. Don’t plan so much in one day. Leave room every day to let life happen. We miss out on too much in life when we are in a hurry all the time. So much beauty, so much opportunity. When we are always focused on the narrow path by which we planned out our day we are putting blinders on to everything going on in our peripherals. And there are so many wonderful things going on around us. We need merely let ourselves be open to it.

“Life moves by pretty fast. If you don’t stop to look around every once and awhile, you could miss it.”

Ferris Bueller (Ferris Bueller’s Day Off)

The car bra

bmw_E46ciJust this past week I happened to notice in the parking lot of the place I work, a car bra on a nice shiny BMW parked right in front of the building. I couldn’t help but contemplate why someone would possibly use such an accessory. I eventually came to the conclusion that this accessory is completely without actual purpose.

As I understand it, the purpose of the car bra is supposed to be purely cosmetic. It is designed to protect the front end of the car from the elements (dings, nicks, scratches) that will naturally kick up during traffic. This would have to be the purpose of it, as I believe we all would agree that the bra itself is far less visually appealing than the shiny finish underneath. So basically it acts as a shield or mask protecting the cars “good looks.” As the minimalist that I am, I would not be so consumed with cosmetics or fashion so as to purchase one of these for my car (no matter what car I happen to have). But minimalism is not for everyone, or maybe this person is passionate about BMW’s; It is not the fact that it is a cosmetic accessory that caused me to come to the conclusion that it is useless.

What did cause me to come to this conclusion, is the fact that the bra is on to keep something looking good, that we can’t see, just because the bra is on. Is not the reason we have good-looking things in the first place, so we can gaze upon them with some sort of pleasure as their image pleases our eyes. This “car bra principle” makes about as much sense as Brad Pitt wearing a mask all the time because he wants to protect his face from the elements, and keep his face nice and pretty. “Hey Brad. You don’t have a pretty face if no one (including yourself) ever sees it.” And the truth is, those who use a car bra seldom take it off, because it’s too much work to keep putting it on and off.

So why do they have one??? Vanity. Simple, useless, pointless, and ultimately self-destructive, vanity. A person with a car bra wants US to know that they have a good-looking car without actually showing it to us. They are willing to just accept the fact that their car is good-looking, without actually allowing them-self the pleasure of gazing on it. This is pompous.

I have officially labeled ” The Car Bra” as official proof humanities counterproductive ego.

The car bra is without fashion or functional purpose. I am even going to go out on a limb here and say that the owner of a car bra can’t possibly be a minimalist.

 

Shopping: Places to be “on guard”

It seems that no matter where we go outside our own homes, there is always merchandising. We can’t go anywhere without their being as small stand or shop where somebody is selling something. This is just the way capitalism works, and we gotta get used to it. A very difficult thing for an aspiring minimalist. Does that mean that we shouldn’t go out much? Of course not; minimalists are the most out going people I know. But we minimalists are human animals too, and just like other animals we tend to be attracted to all the wonderful flashy things that are being offered to us (depending on what interests us). It is for this reason that we must put on our “minimalist thinking cap” when we are in certain situations so we do not get caught up in making impulse purchase decisions. As no doubt we will encounter many situations where the temptation to consume is high, and we must realize that these things that attract us are just trinkets, do-dads, knickknacks, and dust collectors.

 

I recently encountered a situation where I had to use my “minimalist restraint.” And looking back, I am so glad I did.

 

I am very much a Sci-Fi Fantasy buff. Having been born into generation “X” I naturally became a Star Wars enthusiast. I also love Star Trek, Lord of the Rings, cosplay, Battlestar Galactica, BladeRunner, and a whole mess of other nerdy things. Heck, I meet with a group of friends of mine on a regular basis to play a fantasy role-play card game (Magic: The Gathering).

Last month I attended a ComiCon (Comic and Sci-Fi Convention), and like most conventions there were stands and tables set up everywhere selling toys, original signed art work, games, decorative pieces, costume accessories, and all kinds of interesting things. Temptation was high for me. But instead of giving in, I took a moment to remember my values. I took a step back and realized that almost all the stuff at this place that was being sold had one thing in common. IT WAS ALL USELESS. If I were to purchase any of these things, the most excitement I would have with them is at the time of purchase. Past that, I would take it home and let it collect dust somewhere; seldom would I gaze upon it again.

In the end I ended up having a really good time there because I was enjoying the show. I enjoyed LOOKING at all the cool and wonderful merchandise. I enjoyed seeing and listening to the special guests they had there. I enjoyed seeing all the costumes people were wearing. I had a really good time, and the only thing I purchased was an upstarting card game called “Ambyria”, which I intend to play frequently with my wife. I love playing games, and I feel better about giving my money to a kid trying get his game off the ground, then giving it to big business.

 

There are many common places where the merchandise is mostly knickknacks and dust collectors, but the temptation and/or sales pressure is high. These places are:

  • Conventions
  • Fares (County Fares and whatnot)
  • Garage Sales
  • Flea Markets
  • Online Subscription services for monthly box delivery (Lootcrate, 1up, Geek Fuel, etc)

The last one I would just suggest avoiding altogether. For the rest I would just suggest that we always keep one thing in mind for any potential purchase: “What am I gonna do with this once I get it home, and how often will I really use it?”

 

A minimalist makes purchases always with their long-term values and goals/passions in mind.