Too often we forget that we have choices in this life. That our only responsibility is to ourselves, and to the commitments we’ve made so far.
There are pressures out there; pressures all around us. Pressure from our television, the radio, all our media channels, our parents, siblings, peers, friends, co-workers, acquaintances, and even total strangers.
Pressures about:
- Where to live
- How to live
- What to do for a living
- What kind of car to drive
- What to wear
- How to style our hair
- Marriage
- Procreating
- Everything
Collectively they would have us believe that fitting a certain profile is necessary for existence. Well lets face it, we do have to adapt to the world in which we live. So conforming to much of this pressure is necessary for survival. BUT ……… once the basic needs of survival are met (food, water, shelter), the rest of our life is completely up to us.
But here’s the thing: The basic needs of survival are cheap. Real cheap. Meals, and a roof over our head can be simple, and do not require a complex skill set. Anyone with a good work ethic, two hands, and two legs can get a job, sleep in a modest residence, have three square healthy meals a day, and transportation.
Beyond that, we have the option to custom tailor our lives according to our desires. The first step is knowing what those desires are. The second step is putting together a plan toward getting there. The third is implementation of that plan (DO IT). Baby steps, always baby steps. With small celebrations in between each step.
Of all these steps, the hardest is the first step. Knowing what we want is difficult. WHY? BECAUSE OF ALL THE PRESSURES I MENTIONED ABOVE. We spend our entire lives with everyone telling us what to be, what to do, how to live. So much in fact, that so many of us unknowingly acquiesce to being told what we want, what we desire. These people often proceed to steps two and three, and ultimately to the goal and end up living miserable “successful” lives, never understanding why they are so miserable.
It is my belief that these people (and many others) do not realize the wide breath of options they have in this life. They do not realize that they have no obligation, no debt to anyone but themselves and their commitments.
Beyond survival, all else is optional. The world is our playground, and there are so many options.
Another thing that the pressures of society do to us, is numb us from noticing and enjoying the simple pleasures life has to offer. We’ve been so desensitized and distracted with information overload in the form of loud music, flashy games, sleek automobiles, poison fake food, and altogether just flashy images and products. We often miss the real gifts this life has to offer: A sunrise, a sunset, the warm touch of a lover, a pleasant conversation with a friend, the warm sunshine on our face, a cool breeze on our skin on a hot summer day, the feel of grass under our feet, the smells of nature, the sound of waves crashing on the shore, I can go on forever.
These are the simple but real pleasures this life has to offer. Simple, but far greater than anything that can be bought in a store, or seen on a screen. These are the pleasures enjoyed by those who choose a simple life. All these society pressures, these images, distractions, these complications, these illusions really, have no real purpose in the grand scheme of things. They serve only to divert us from the important things in life.