Handling Stress / Problem Coping

YouAreSmallWhat are your problems really? Have you really taken a step back and examined your life from a more comprehensive POV where you can see more clearly what your priorities are? Or are you too busy being involved (consumed actually) in the problems you have right now? Here are some tips I live by to handle stress, problem solving, and just life in general:

 

  • Don’t sweat the small stuff.
  • “Control” for the most part, is an illusion. The only thing a person can actually have any control over is their own thoughts and actions. One can’t control the things around them, and certainly not the people around them. In my experience, it is the people who try so hard to control everything around them that end up being the ones that end up losing control of their own thoughts and actions. In their struggle to control everything, they end up losing them self. So in the end, one cannot control the situation, one can only control how they interpret and react to the situation.
  • If a problem is hurting any of ones values, discard it. Simple solution. Often the solution to a problem is simply to get rid of it.
  • Always look at the big picture. Is the problem worth the time, and mental energy being devoted to it? Remember that you are just one person living in a big community, big country, big world, big galaxy, big universe and in the grand scheme of things your problems are not worth squat. It may not be worth spending even two minutes of an already short life worrying about trifles.YouAreSmall
  • In my experience there is no such thing as the “wrong” thing to do and the “right” thing to do. There is only: “What can I live with?”. Don’t get caught up in what others perceive as the wrong thing to do, and the right thing to do. Choose the solution that permits you to be able to live with yourself.

Paperwork!

paperworkHow much clutter do you have in the form of paperwork!? For so many of us these take up a tremendous amount of space. Big file cabinets filled with paperwork. Paperwork covering our desks, our kitchen/dining room tables, even sometimes our cars.

 

 

– Receipts

– Prescriptions

– Signed documents

– Bills

– Statements

– Official Documents

– articles

– magazines

– notes

 

And what is it all good for. Are we really going to even use 70% of it? Now I can’t speak for everybody, but it drives me crazy. In my opinion, this is the worst kind of clutter, and often the most difficult to sort.

Lets go through these a little bit at a time.

Notes, articles, and magazines gotta go. Plain and simple. If they have been sitting on your desk for more than a week, you are not going to read them. No chance. Once they’re read, they’re no longer of any value. Into the recycle bin they go. Newspapers and magazines have websites where you can often read the same articles for free. Let the computer be your medium. Ebooks, and tablets are good for this purpose too.

Receipts – Do you still have that receipt from the Blue Ray player you purchased four years ago? seriously? the warranty is already expired, lose it. Electronic companies sell you an extended warranty because they know that the product is good enough to last the entire term. They also know that the product is only good enough to last the term, and not a week longer (but this is another grievance). We hold onto these receipts to give ourselves some false sense of security. Draw a line in the sand for yourself and say that you will only save the receipts for items $500 or greater.

Bills. There is really no need to hold on to a bill for more than a year. Honestly, what is the likelihood that you will ever need to prove that your Jan 2014 electric bill was $150?

Statements. Almost completely unnecessary. Bank account, cell phone usage, electricity usage, cable, even water usage could all be found online in the event you need this information. Which no doubt is very seldom.

Signed/official documents – Alright now these are worth keeping. Things like Living Will, Vehicle Title, Power of Attorney, and Bill of Sale are usually things you want to hold on to.

Generally speaking, if one has chosen a very minimalist lifestyle and cut down on “overhead” then a reduction in paperwork clutter should naturally follow. There won’t be too many bills to collect if the only utilities you have are electricity, phone, and water. There won’t be many receipts to keep if you are not much of a consumer. You are an active and healthy person, exactly how many prescriptions can you possibly have?

It is also worth considering scanning all necessary paperwork into your computer. A “backed up” digital copy is far more secure than a hard copy.