My Philosophy on Relationship Problem Resolution

These are just a few quotes I live by, regarding keeping/maintaining good relationships:

Don’t play the “blame game”; nobody wins.

Just because you did not cause the problem, doesn’t alleviate you from any responsibility to solve the problem. All parties are still responsible.

Rather than focusing on what we can do to change our partner, focus instead on how we can change ourselves to bring out the best in our partner.

Don’t put the burden of “making you happy” on your partner. Make yourself happy!

Halloween is here again.

Yes, it’s my favorite time of year again. Those of you that have been following me a long time know that I HALT everything when Halloween month comes around so I can take the time to celebrate the things that go bump in the night. In years past I have opened up my online Halloween radio station, but due to another project I am working on I won’t be doing that this year. I also need a new host for that radio station, as the previous one has new policies that are not favorable. 

This has not spoiled my fun in the least though. And it by no means should spoil yours either.

But I have decided to put together a playlist of “Foppy’s Top Halloween Songs Ever”. This is a list of songs carefully chosen because they perfectly reflect the spirit of Halloween as I see it. Some of them are Halloween Dance Party songs. Some are Halloween creepy songs. Some are just comical. Some are hardcore Ghoulish. Some are movie themes. But ALL of them capture the spirit of Halloween in one form or another (in my opinion anyway). I should also mention that this is very much an adult playlist. In no particular order the list goes as follows:

  1. I Want Candy (Bow Wow Wow)
  2. Black Celebration (Depeche Mode)
  3. Pet Semetary (The Ramones)
  4. Stranger Things Theme
  5. Sympathy for the Devil (Rolling Stones)
  6. Welcome to My Nightmare (Alice Cooper)
  7. Monster Mash (Boris Carlof)
  8. The Time Warp (Rock Horror Picture Show)
  9. Haunted House (Elvira)
  10. Zombie Stomp (Elvira)
  11. Nightmare on Elm street Theme
  12. Tales From the Crypt Theme
  13. Beetlejuice Theme
  14. Cry Little Sister (Sisters of Mercy) (Lost Boys Theme)
  15. Dead Mans Party (Oingo Boingo) (Best party song ever)
  16. Living Dead Girl (Rob Zombie)
  17. Heads Will Roll (Yeah Yeah Yeah’s)
  18. What the Hell Have I (Alice in Chains)
  19. Dragula (Rob Zombie)
  20. Don’t Fear the Reaper (Blue Oyster Cult)
  21. Ghost Town (The Specials)
  22. This is Halloween (The Citizens of Halloween) (Nightmare Before Christmas Theme)
  23. A Nightmare on My Street (DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince)
  24. Somebody’s Watching Me (Rockwell)
  25. Spooky Sexy (Phoebe Carter)
  26. Psycho Killer (The Talking Heads)
  27. Buffy the Vampire Slayer Theme
  28. People Are Strange (The Doors)
  29. Thriller (Michael Jackson)
  30. Feed My Frankenstein (Alice Cooper)
  31. Halloween Theme (John Carpenter)
  32. Halloween (The Misfits)
  33. Halloween (Siouxsie & the Banshees)
  34. Every Day is Halloween (Ministry)

I am always on the lookout for more Halloween-esqu songs to add to my list. if you have any recommendations, please comment below. Either way, if you are as enthusiastic about Halloween as I am, I encourage you to put together this playlist for yourself. You won’t be disappointed. 


Fictitious Debt: The mental baggage you may not realized you have.

I once read a quote meant to address the entitled youth of America that read simply “The world doesn’t owe you anything.”

I believe this is true, however I also believe that the opposite is also true. That being “You don’t owe the world anything.”

That’s right, there is a clean slate between us and the world in which we were born. In fact, the only debt we have in this life are in the commitments we make along the way, and our own personal debt (accomplishing the goals we set for ourselves), and whatever debt our faith lays upon us.

Along the way we WILL make commitments too. It’s unavoidable. If we take out a loan, we have committed to paying it back. If we get married, we have committed to join our lives to another.  If we have a child, we have committed to raising that child. Commitment requires choice.

Personal Debt is simply the things we promised ourselves, our goals. Our passionate pursuits.

For those of us who have faith, there may be debts we have there.

Unfortunately they (society, parents, public at large, etc) would have us believe that we also carry with us debts that we did NOT choose:

  • We owe our parents for our lives.
  • We owe our country our loyalty.
  • We owe capitalism our unwavering consumption.
  • We owe society our conformity.

Every single one of the above bullet points is false. Completely fictitious. Obligations instilled starting at birth to exercise control. And these can stay with us our entire lives, often times holding us back from experiencing the full joy life truly has to offer.

For starters, when we decide to have children, we do so of our own choice with no expectation of return from our offspring (after all, it’s not slavery). We hope we raise our children to be grateful, and grow to be successful (in whatever makes them happy) for their own sake. If we do a good job, this is certain anyway. 

We pay taxes ….. that’s how we support our country. Any additional “loyalty” (whatever that is supposed to mean) is a choice, whether we live here or not.

We are under no obligation to live the lifestyle media suggests we do. I’m not gonna elaborate on this, because I’ve done so too may times before.

If we free our minds of these fictitious debts, we allow for more possibilities in our lives, and therefore more joy, more success.

Gratitude: The sure path to happiness

I have spent lots of time and many posts outlining various types of mental clutter. Thoughts and emotions we can do without, as they are unproductive and just drag us down.

But for the first time I wan’t to discuss the one emotion that is the key ingredient in our minds, for long sustainable happiness. This emotion is gratitude.

For starters, being grateful is being joyous, just as is. It is a mild state of euphoria. When one is grateful, neither anger, no sadness can creep in. One cannot feel gratitude in combination with any emotion other than joy.

Gratitude brings perspective (And vice versa…. actually). There is always something to be grateful for; I don’t care who we are. Whether it’s for the sunshine on our faces, or the grass under our toes, we are all enjoying God’s gifts (or natures gifts). Because this is true, when we are grateful for these things we are able to see life from a much broader perspective, as opposed to just simply seeing it from the goings on in the events of our lives right now.

Gratitude brings clarity. Being grateful for the riches we have opens our perception to be constantly aware of the elements in life that are truly important, and not just the elements that seem important this moment. This is invaluable in better decision making.

So smile and be grateful. All the time. There is no such thing as too much gratitude (just don’t be annoyingly thankful).

Be grateful for:

  1. the sunshine
  2. the cool breeze
  3. family
  4. friends
  5. a full belly
  6. a home
  7. fresh water

And remember that not everyone has these things. Consider yourself fortunate.